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8 Secrets to Savoring the Single Life

Don't give in to the stereotype!


Art Credit: Taylor McCutchan

Being single has been sorely stereotyped. Your life is not less because you don't have a significant other. More over, singleness does not signify loneliness. As a single woman, you have the opportunity to embrace your free time—and explore. Try one (or all!) of these to keep on thriving.

01. Embrace long walks.

We'll state the obvious: Physical activity does a body good. An added bonus? It protects your brain. A new study found that young adults with higher cardio levels performed better on cognitive tests twenty-five years later compared to those who were less fit. Reconnect with nature, get fresh air in your lungs, put on the jams, or just listen to your breathing and the noise around you.

02. Figure out your signature dish.

You're already cooking for yourself and know your favorites, so there's no better excuse than to put in some practice. Make the meal a few times, varying ingredients, technique, and cook time, until you have it mastered. Whip it up and bring to your next party or group meeting. You'll leave everyone impressed—even if it's the only dish you can cook.

03. Become an expert on someone you admire.

Is there a historical figure you have always been drawn to? A world leader? A pop star? Learn the ins and outs of whoever has fascinated you. Watch highly-rated documentaries. Read the best biography written on them.

04. Schedule a monthly meal with a family member.

If you're lucky enough to live near family, especially grandparents or aging relatives, take advantage. As a single woman, you now have the freedom to form a relationship outside of reunions, holidays, or parental obligations. Your relatives will know you care by carving out time to spend one-on-one with them.

05. Connect spiritually.

What is life? And what is it all about? Utilize this time to figure that out. Family and friends aside, what do you believe? Join groups, ask questions, listen to lectures or sermons. What makes sense to you? No other person is challenging you at this time, so you can lay the foundation for yourself. Establishing your beliefs, morals, and guidelines before you enter into a relationship (if that's even on your agenda) will prepare you for a healthier one. Figure out how you see the world and what you believe.

06. Offer your time to mentor others.

If you have established yourself in your career, extend a helping hand to someone younger or less-experienced. Chances are they would love your opinion or want to know how you got to where you are. Keep in mind all the people who helped you get where you are today and pay it forward.

07. Learn the "Electric Slide."

Seriously. It's played at basically every wedding and reunion. Insert "The Wobble" or another dance phenomenon—you need to have at least one in your repertoire. Spend an afternoon on YouTube and master it. Be that person who 100 percent knows what they are doing on the dance floor the next time it comes on.

08. Pick up the after-school activity you loved as a kid.

Did you do ballet? Sing in the choir? Play on the tennis team? If there's any part of you wanting to try it again, go for it. See how much you can remember and what stuck from years of lessons. You'll feel like a kid again while adding a new, fun hobby to your usual schedule.